Fiming Tomorrow – ooooh the boots

Well there you are, I couldnt even manifest a pair of new boots for the filming tomorrow with Channel M.
I am blessed with Channel M filming 4 segments tomorrow on the different aspects to what I do but I do have a social anxiety person missing which oculd mean having to create trauma for someone in the offices so as to give them social anxiety.
Hey ho – its all in a days work!

Get out of the way – I’m coming through

Well now, today has been a whirlwind.
I have had a breakthrough with a therapy client which also involved adaptation on a technique which worked like a dream , the realisation that being the summer, there are no boots on sale and also that sweating profusely over another member of the gym doesnt always lead to sideways looks and things which they wished they had said!
A day of learning you have more friends than you though and that you connect with people you percieved as not connecting with you. Yes, the old projection thing!

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New Body Image Issue Webinar about to be Launched

Understanding body image or body dysmorphia problems can be difficult and getting therapy for body image issues even more difficult and a new webinar series will help. Manchester specialist therapist Emma James has had years of dealing with clients with this condition and has decided to offer her therapeutic services in the form of a webinar for worldwide usage.

 

Many of us experience body image problems at some point throughout our lives and we manage it well. Body dysmorphia or body dysmorphic disorder is on the increase in the UK and USA. Whether it is due to social shifts, pressures of conformity or from eating disorders and past trauma, the ability to receive clear information and simple steps which you can take on your own is not widely available.

 

“For many people in this credit crunch, their resources are limited and they may not be able to afford therapy or to attend a workshop or seminar. This is a simple way of giving information about body image problems, what can cause it, how to manage body dysmorphia and practical simple solutions to begin change” Emma said.

 

One of the approaches is to explain the common feelings we have. How we see ourselves is dependant on how we are felling at that moment in time. If we are in a negative state of mind, that will reflect on what we believe we are seeing and influence our behaviour accordingly. We also then focus on what we do not like and it can then cause social anxiety as that image in our head stays with us as our perception of how others are viewing us.

 

Have you even noticed how, if you were not happy about how you saw yourself that morning, you picked up on certain things. For instance you may think your face is too full, your legs looked too heavy etc. Then when you are dealing with others you are consciously looking for them to pick up on that which causes a certain level of anxiety.

 

Body image issues, do not just affect how we see ourselves, they also effect our interaction with others, our overall confidence and self esteem can be greatly affected.

 

For more information about treatment for body image problems and the new webinar facility please go to www.emmajames.net

Rebel Diet unleashed on the unsuspecting public

At our clinic in Stalybridge, I see a number of weight management and weight loss clients. My book, Rebel Diet came out last year and has precipitated an amazing response and also a high level of people wanting private appointments.
So, finally I gave in a decided to launch my Rebel Diet seminars later on this year all around the UK and then in the USA.
So, keep an eye out for the weight loss seminars or take a peek on my site www.rebeldiet.com

Polish, powerlifting, NLP sport and a motivated trainer!

Wonderful news from Poland – I have just been asked to run my NLP Sport course in Poland again the quality of the athletes is tremendous.
From years of competing internationally I know the level of commitment from the Polish and the other countries in that region and they were always very tough to beat. So, going back again to teach is more of an honour than a “job”.
What is really motivating is the level of drive all the people there I teach mental coaching and sport performance to have and the passion for what they do. Its very refreshing and although I would never tell them this, its also very similar to working the USA as well!

NLP Prac in Bath – getting ready…..

Today, like other days I am getting everything together for a new NLP Practitioner course. The emails have been sent, the tests have been marked and the usual pre course nerves for students and trainer are hovering in the background!
Yesterday I finalized dates for more NLP courses in Bath and Bristol and scuffled with the hotels over pricing for the venues. That’s the price for only taking small groups I suppose which creates that never ending need to provide a fabulous venue for not a huge cost! Well, off to teach some more fabulous NLP practitioners now.

NLP Sport – Regaining Belief in your Competing Ability

 

 

 

 

When I run any adverts for my NLP courses I always use the word “pragmatic” in the description of the course. Something which always bothered me about my profession was that claims were sometimes that NLP was all you needed, it could change anything and you could create changes in any sphere you wished.

 

What bothered me most was that ultimately our profession was doing exactly the same as others and in fact limiting itself within its own boundaries as the “only choice”

One of the main themes of Neuro Linguistic Programming is that it is not a “do to” process, it is a “do with” which I perceived always to be an encompassing statement of not only the client or groups you are working but also the learning and experience you are developing and in effect the evolution of the techniques you are using.

 

Now, the only way we can do this is by learning, understanding and utilizing the expertise and experience of other professions to in fact make it as “do with” as possible and in turn making the entire discipline as beneficial to those we work with as possible.

The ethics and original intent of NLP work incredibly well with other professions and frequently there is an overlap which when taken out of its own context bear similarity and therefore should in fact be complimentary to one another.

 

The reason for an introduction to an article in this way is to make it clear that, as a Trainer and also someone who works with individuals and teams as well application to my own competing, the discipline I teach and also practice can be a beneficial addition to any therapeutic tool kit. However, at this point I will not make wild claims that NLP is the only intervention required to deal with cancer, world war and getting your client to get off their backside and get on the track.

 

There are a great many interventions which NLP uses but primarily, in a therapeutic context,  it is used to establish and elicit a pattern of behaviour from root cause to exhibited behaviour and to the highest intention of the behaviour – all of which can in fact have their own belief system and own ultimate goal.

 

One of the issues with using NLP in sport is that when you are standing out on the track or pitch in a gale force wind with your client,  working through a pattern of behaviour for example an over analytical thought process, to at that point suggest you go through a complex question and answer session plus a complete intervention is somewhat impractical let alone soggy coupled with a seriously bad hair day.

 

One of the parts I teach is about adaption to the client and thinking “laterally” about how to apply what you are using. Using calibration skills to notice a state change in the client as they take you through the stages of the problem step by step, watching the eye patterns and listening to the predicates which will indicate which “language” system they are using in order to effectively then communicate with them in their own language pattern.

A number of other basic and simple first steps to understanding the problem and in fact getting to the bottom of the real problem instead of problem they have handed to you!

 

There are a great many ways the use of NLP can be incorporated into sport, the coaching of and performance in. Its another angle and has varying techniques which can be adapted and moulded to the individual client or team to produce the desired results.

 

A very small part of that are the direct interventions – the rest are elicitation strategies, values, rep system and communication infrastructure and recognition systems which will reframe and divert thought process and patterns. We use these from the smallest part of a competing strategy which is causing a problem right through to underlying causes of self belief issues acting as a block.

 

Some of the skills we teach I honestly think are somewhat temporary unless the actual underlying cause of the problem is addressed possibly in the hope of diverting the behaviour or process long enough for it to ingrain. Again, working a sport environment, frequently you do not have the time on site to elicit the root cause as the problem needs to be addressed now.

 

For instance, a football player I was working with had a situation that he was about to put on a transfer list due to a tackling issue. He had a crutiate injury over 18 months before which was fully healed and he had been given the all clear. The help he had received form the club at that stage wasn’t working for him and he was referred to me.

 

He had never quite regained confidence in the knee and tackling force he could use so as he came in for the tackle, he would experience a sudden loss of power. Up to that point, as soon as he knew he was going to tackle an entire thought process was starting which was negative and so he would enter into an over analytic process forcing him to go conscious at that point. Overall this was causing a loss of self confidence and in his playing ability as well as producing a sudden return to a consciously incompetent state instead of unconsciously competent.

 

From the angle of what I do and the processes we use, we looked for the trigger, the moment both systems started. He was highly process orientated and so the trigger when he realized he was going to tackle was an internal dialogue which began. For that we used a anchoring technique which made the connection to the physical stimulus of that action and provided a new direction for the behaviour so that he didn’t have the same internal dialogue.

 

We also used a replay of the moment when he would lose the power which was when he drew his leg back to directly challenge for the ball which was the same leg he had the crutiate problem . At that moment we used another anchoring technique to collapse the sudden loss of power and be overtaken with a focused drive he had experienced in the past which we used.

 

He then went into tackle with another player and found that the loss of power had gone and he in fact carried through in a committed movement without the fear or protective loss of power.

 

Now, this was all carried out on site so no other underlying cause or interview was carried out that point so in effect these issues were only temporarily dealt with.

 

On a one to one session at the clinic 2 days later, we then went into the underlying issues which had build over that period of time which had effected his belief in ability and was therefore producing a limiting belief. There is no quick fix as such for this and I covered techniques we use which I know are questioned but work for me. We used a values elicitation which transpired that his criteria had changed and his own success in football had been overtaken by an away from motivation of not wishing to let his club and family down therefore reducing his drive to move towards his goal.

 

A fear of failure had also started which was blocking him and causing limitations.

Along with sub modality work and reframing I also covered with him methods of changing the internal dialogue which then change the focus of what  you want. This meant that he  needed to practice it and there is no fast way of doing that and the main key is being able to recognize that you are in fact doing it before getting sucked into that vortex of self doubt and negative thought process. This takes time but eventually will change the overall process if they can stick at it.

 

The outcome 3 weeks later was that he had successfully tackled at the clubs matches and he had in fact been taken off the transfer list. Of course there were ongoing small issues which needed to be dealt with over a period of time but none of them required further direct work with me and he could work on these himself whilst keeping in contact by email and phone.

 

The example is only used as small except of some of the work which can be done but I really do want to emphasise that what we do is not something I believe is a “cure all” and in a ideal world if all the disciplines that are available could be lumped into one, then we would have something amazing. However, regardless of who does what, the only thing which should be important is the individual and getting results for them and watching them reach the potential you know is there.

For further information about NLP in sport and performance optimization please visit www.emmajamesport.co.uk

Fad Diets – Rebel against the diet industry today

Fad diets are a scourge that have been on the radar for quite some time. The diet industry is gaining momentum and now is the time to stop it in its tracks.

Take control of your body, mind and life NOW and rebel against the diet industry.

 

The Diet Industry. This is a multi million pound industry

 

How much money do you think you have spent on diets, pills, specific diet meals and courses? Hundreds, maybe thousands?

 

Have any of them worked for you long term?

 

The diet industry has made fortunes out of turning the very simple basics of weight loss into a complete mystery of selling various pills and compounds or selling you processed meals which cost more than preparing them yourself.

 

The seems to have been a mysterious vale brought up around dieting when in fact it really is very simple indeed. The only difficult part of changing your body shape and body fat levels is knowing what works for you and how to find out. Also, long term many diets are not sustainable which can cause repeated severe dieting and sometimes gaining more weight than you started off with!

 

The Secret?

There isn’t a secret. Its just about understanding your own system and how to tweak it to lose weight..

 

30 or 40 yeas ago, we didn’t have the convenience we have now and generally people were a lot more active. Shops were not as close, more people had to walk, less computer systems and entertainment involved having to go out.

We pretty much had to make our own entertainment and there were less home based activities. Having a car was not as common as it is now. Everyone now has a car and the people who cant drive are few and far between.

 

Our food was better; there was less processed food and more cooked from scratch with natural produce. A lot of the food was locally produced (especially where I was brought up in Belfast where at that time a Kiwi fruit was thought of as highly exotic!) Pre cooked and processed convenience food was more of a luxury than an every day occurrence

 

Many companies sprang up and began to offer potions, pills and diet solutions, some of them effective, some of them not so effective but very few of them actually offering a long term solution to managing your weight. It was about short term weight loss and not designed and your own body. Where would the profit be in giving people a solution long term and not giving them repeat business?

 

The way the industry seems to be working at the moment is either absolutely no information and they hold the key to the secret OR they give you apparently lots of information, just not quite enough to be able to do it yourself but will sell you all the meals, or give you all the information based on “normal” people, not us lot that apparently have to fight like hell to lose it and keep it off.

 

Many of the diets which are around are based on short term fast solutions which don’t keep the weight off long term. Its all part of the quick fix society we seem to have grown into and the “want it now” culture. It doesn’t have to be like that – its simple and easy AND you know what, the less you stress about it better the results you will get long term. 

 

Even apart from what I have written in my book Rebel Diet, you will probably by now know certain things that do work for you or you respond well to. They may work in a minor way long term or possibly work short term for you but doesn’t seem to work on a long term basis.

One piece of advice I can give you is that when you find something you respond well to, you can incorporate it into the regime in the book in some way AND USE IT! IT will be an indicator at some level of what you respond to and you are on your way to recognizing the signals which get you closer to understanding what your body needs and when.

 

So, when you see a new fad diet which claims to have miraculous results by taking out essential elements which assist us in staying healthy put a question mark over it. When you see a new slimming drug, put another question mark over it and ask yourself, what can I do to get to know my own system and understand how it works and walk away from the diet industry for good?

 

Free yourself from diet hell, turn your back on the pills potions and extreme diets and Rebel. Get to know you, understand what you need to do to turn up your metabolic rate and also understand what will effect it and  slow it down.

 

Take back control – change your mind, change your body and change your life.

 

Emma James MABNLP, MATLTA, MABH, Dip FTST IHHTT

Author of Rebel Diet

www.rebeldiet.com

www.emmajames.net